I
Am the senior West Coast writer for People magazine and I put together the most beautiful people issue
Sexiest man alive issue and this year we are putting in the fabulous guys from Queer Eye into the sexiest
man issue. This is the perfect year to include the fab five because they're making such an incredible sensation
People are really excited to watch them on Netflix and they're just really having fun and their energy is contagious.
We're very excited and they're more than worthy to be in the issue.
As a result of them being in sexiest man alive
We have asked them to help give tips to our readers to make their
Spouses and their mates a little more sexy and a little more romantic
The typical reader's husband, not that they need it, but just even more so than usual
and so
We've got my husband Terry
Who is such a trooper and I am going to owe him big-time.
I have no grooming habits to speak of I use shampoo. I've never been in skinny jeans. I've never been in pointed boots. I've never had anybody
Suggest a certain style for me so
I'm curious to see how that's gonna be, I'm looking forward to it.
Hey guys, how are you?
What's going on Terry, hey I'm Bobby. I love your big knocker.
Antoni: Nice to meet you
Karamo: Hey, how are you doing? I'm Karamo.
Bobby: Wow, such a lovely home.
Tan: Yeah it really is so nice.
Terry: Guys, have a seat. Tan: Thank you so much. How long you been in this house?
We have been in here for 12 years now. All right, Terry. Yes. We're here to help you remind
I need help. You're a married man and we're here to make you sexy. I am a married man
Antoni: What do you think you need help with? Terry: Wow
I
Just need a lot of help with a lot of things
Is there anything about yourself that you think is I know you probably use the word sexy but is that you like about yourself?
What is it that you like about yourself? Terry: I would never consider myself sexy. So okay
I don't even know how to respond. Tan: he's gonna deal with that. Antoni: Does your wife consider you sexy?
I would like to think so but
You know, it's probably more so 18 years ago
So we're here to make sure that we're gonna take care of you by the end of this
Yo
you've got a date and we want to make sure that
Every day is could be date night where you feel really good about yourself
So every one of us is gonna take care of you food grooming fashion interiors
And culture we're gonna make sure that by the end of this process you're gonna feel great like yourself
Are you okay with us creeping around your house while you start with one of us?
Absolutely.
All right, so I'm gonna keep you and they're gonna get out of here.
Can I go check out your wardrobe
Absolutely
Stay out of the night stand drawers. Never look at anybody's nightstand drawers
You already have a beautiful home
Well, thank you
Um, usually when I walk into people's homes, I'm scared, but I actually I love this. It's very serene. It's decorated well.
It's all my wife.
The great thing about Terry is he was not way over here. He was here
He just needs to be taught to take some time to really appreciate Julie and to let her know how much he appreciates her
It just takes an extra five minutes a day to really make your partner know that you love them
What I kind of want to teach you is how to make some little different moments every day
To kind of mix things up a little bit because I know you're having date night with your wife tonight, right?
So to me, it's very important to kind of take those moments at home and do something that is unexpected
So I'm gonna set up a little picnic moment for you. I'm partnering with Antoni on this
He's gonna work on the food with you
I'm gonna work on the design and it's gonna be this nice little romantic picnic
I hear Antoni in the kitchen already rummaging through things. So I'm gonna let you go in with Antoni. Awesome. Okay. All right
Thank you. Thank you Mike. Give me a hug. Yes
Have fun with him. Listen guys
I understand. We as a culture we tell men that you shouldn't feel like you good-looking
You're supposed to dole all the compliments out and no one's ever giving you any but that has to stop
Oh Terry
How was it with Bobby? Terry: It was good
Is he gonna redo your whole house in five minutes?
I hope so. Antoni: be honest with me looking at all of this how intimidated are you on a scale of one to oh my gosh
Eight
Okay. So a lot of these things aren't familiar. No, I think that for tonight
I want you to have a really cute little night with your wife that doesn't require a lot of effort.
But that requires a lot of care and thought. We have this awesome
Block that we're just gonna basically assemble this whole spread on. There's literally no cooking.
It's just assembly.
Terry is overwhelmed at best when we get in. So I wanted to make something that was simple
We have a cheese and charcuterie board exploring local cheeses and then something French from across the pond
I just wanted to kind of like open up his palate and his extend his horizons and just have him try things
He's never had before so we're gonna get started here
so we're gonna open this little guy up here and we're gonna plop it down wherever it fits.
A farmer's cheese goes really nicely with honey. We'll take some dried cranberries have those strewn about on the side
Have you ever had a blue? Yes, so you love a blue cheese. I like strong cheese
Let's grab this guy because we know that you love him this little blue Javert our little French blue
well
Let's just kind of go extra and make this thing kind of feel more like a painting one dollop like so and then swoosh
So with the manchego think we do need something that's like nice and sweet for this. What do you think we should add.
I kinda like that one.
How about this one? Antoni: Yeah!
Great answer! You wanna do the olives? just with your hand just grab a few and you can just throw them in around. Yeah
You dumped it right on there
So then just to finish it off as well as you say I think we need more meat. We need more meat, right?
So prosciutto often I did buy the pre-sliced stuff. I'm totally guilty of that. I do like to buy it
Sometimes just from the deli and have them cut it up. Are we're missing anything?
Is there anything else that we can add maybe just some dried apricots just to have a bit of color
And I think we're all set. I think so. Do you want to walk through like do you remember what these things are?
blue cheese Antoni: french blue
Aged Havarti Antoni: That's right
Antoni: Manchego Terry: Manchego. Boursin. Antoni: Boursin with some honey with some honey
Prosciutto. I want to call it salami but...
You could just say it's a truffle. Just say truffle salami, it is what it is.
Okay, blackberries.
You're good. You know what? Everything is why am I even here? How adorable is this? And it's something special that didn't require a lot of time
That's just I don't know. Hey
Karamo loves cheese and now he's allowed to touch it because I've actually made this he knows he's not allowed to touch it
He won't let me in here. Seriously. Thank you. I know we're here to support you.
You look really good.
Well, thank you
I mean we can all use room for improvement, but I want you to know you're not starting from zero.
Well, I appreciate that
Yeah, there's a scale of one to ten. Antoni: you're not in the worst one we've ever helped
I feel better now.
Can I take him now?
I'm gonna tidy up I'm gonna leave this for you here. Thank you
Will you save me some prosciutto and some of that cheese?
Absolutely.
Let's spend some time together
Alright
I will tell you this that
when I came here and I saw your beautiful house and
Your beautiful wife and your beautiful children. I thought this seemed like a guy that has it all together, right?
How are we gonna really help him here?
And then you said something to all of us.
That struck my heart and has completely changed how I was coming in here to help you.
When we asked you if you feel sexy you said
no, and
Then I asked you do you feel handsome and you said no?
Yeah, I mean, I just don't think in those terms. I guess.
Listen guys. I understand
As a culture we tell men that you shouldn't feel like you good-looking
you're supposed to dole all the compliments out and no one's ever given you any but that has to stop.
As much as we give compliments to our partners, to the women in our lives
It's also important that we say we need the love as well
So for Terry, the first step was acknowledging the love within himself and realizing that Terry you are really striking
When was the last time you looked at yourself in the mirror and thought I look good?
It's been a while.
Like how long?
10 years at least
and what happened at that 10-year mark
Could have been...You know as 10 or 12 years ago
I mean the first year that my company made a profit and
It gave me confidence and I'm I remember looking at myself in the mirror saying you got this
And that was the last time?
That was probably the last time
yeah, there's a lot of validation coming from all the external stuff
So I understand why you say things like I don't think in those terms
But you should be thinking in those terms
You have a son. Terry: I do
How would you feel if your son said I don't think I'm handsome?
It would disturb me
Why?
Because I wouldn't think he'd have any self confidence to go out in the world and do what he needs to do
And so I get your point
It's we get to a place where it's I can't focus on me
I can't think about me and what I like about me because my job
society and culture tells me my job is to focus on everyone else.
If you want to have true romance and love in your life
You have to first love yourself because love is a mirror
What you see in yourself is what you're gonna reflect to the rest of the world
So tonight you get with her and you start telling her the things you love about her
I want you to also tell her these are things that I love about me
that's when romance and intimacy comes from so if you could say you know what I didn't think that I was always that handsome and
I didn't think in those terms
To use your words I thought in those terms for you
But I didn't think in those terms for me.
Give her an opportunity once she hears you saying it to start telling you as well
What I love about myself
What do you love about yourself? That's true romance.
All right, thanks man.
There's something about the energy of your house, that just makes us love our quarrel doesn't it
Terry could we borrow you? Terry: Yeah, absolutely
Oh Karamo, I'm so sorry. Karamo: No, we're done.
I think it's the lack of pomade that's making me feel this way. And I think that we're gonna fix that.
Bye Queen. Karamo: Bye, love
You can't trust what seems sometimes. You just gotta trust what the gays tell you to do
Gosh, lead us, lead us, lead us.
Come in here, let's see where the magic happens
Cute! Come on in take a seat
I'm gonna be in here. Jonathan: Okay
Okay. Hi
So tell me
What happens in the morning? Like what do you do to get ready typically before you leave for the more for the morning?
Well, that's pretty easy. I take a shower. Jonathan: Uh-huh
Wash my hair. Jonathan: And I see that you got a shaver in there and a little mirror Terry:I do
So do you kind of do your shaving out in the shower? Terry: I do
Terry basically is like a shower shaver
He uses shampoo as his shaving cream and his post shave and his pre-shave and the totality of his skincare products of shampoo
He looks great
But he could just use a little bit more of a just like a little
Gentle nudge to do any grooming other than combing his hair
Is this how you wear your hair everyday? Terry: It is
I'm not mad at it. I actually think it's a very nice shape
If you do detail it with a little bit of pomade, especially for say a date night
It can give you like a little bit of a slightly like edgier
Like I'm kind of like a remember like in high school and I just like bust you out of your parents house
You know without permission or whatever so it can be a little bit more like bad boyish
You're just a little bit more polished or really just different. So these are two different ones that you can try from
This one's gonna be more matte. This clay has a little bit of shine
So I think it'd be fun if we did a little of the matte one. So that's about how much I'm using
I'm gonna rub it up in my hands
And a lot of times when people go to put on product to the tendency is that they come right here like right on the front
Incorrect. So I always recommend starting and back and kind of working it in on the nape of your neck and then from getting it
In the back I start to work my way forward the point is to not
like plaster the hair down then once you get into this here kind of get all up in there and get the product underneath the
Hair don't worry. It's gonna old crazy for a second
Then I come back in and you start to use your fingers to kind of finger comb
And see how it just gives you like a little bit of a little texture on your heads like not so clean and brand new
You know and also you've really attractive eyes
That was the first thing that I noticed about you
So I think anything to kind of like polish you from the neck up
Like you don't have to do a lot like you're already very handsome
So even just think this small act of putting on a little bit of pomade like that just kind of says like hey
I know what I'm working with like look at this full head of hair on my salt n, you know what I'm saying?
So really that's my truth. And really I think that the takeaway is... Oh my god
Your lips are dry here. I'm gonna put this on your index finger
This is more like a concentrated lip balm. So it's gonna be more of a moisture treatment that you could put on at nighttime
Which I love so that's good. Sometimes chapsticks can like get us in a vicious cycle of
Perpetuating lip dryness and get really smear that guy on there
Just get it just really just moisturize them. Terry: Seems like a lot.
Well, you know, you can't trust what seems sometimes. You've just gotta trust what the gays tell you to do.
Okay so that's that. Let me see you. You look gorge!
Tanny! Tan: yeah?
What'd you find in there?
Oh just sort of polos. We'll talk about that. Oh my god, you do look great
You definitely have those vibes of like when I was in high school if you were like the dad of like one of my friends
I would've been like oh my god mr. whatever
Like Mr. Whatever, I'm so sorry whatever you know
And see how that was really like so easy?
Oh and then this is makeup wipes because if you wear sunscreen everyday from now on, which you have to,
you just want to take it off before bed. Love you guys, bye.
Actually, I didn't even know you should take off your sunscreen before bed. Jonathan: Queen!
I truly... Jonathan: Let your skin breathe
Well done. He's very good at what he does. Let's talk fashion
Here's the thing. You already looked great. So we don't have to do a lot what I found in your closet
is that you have a plethora of polos and
Trousers that look very much like this. Terry: Yes.
Do you feel like your fashion on the whole is boring? Terry: Yes
What does Julie think of what you wear? Does she ever comment on your style?
She thinks it's very vanilla
Clothes can do so much for your self-esteem, your confidence, the way you carry yourself, the way you present yourself
All I wanted to get Terry into is something that fit right, that actually
complemented his physique because he's actually got a great physique and I just wanted to get him in something that was tonal
Simple, sophisticated, refined, just stepping it up slightly
So I'm going to show you options that I pulled that are a little different from all of this
I'm not trying to take you out of who you are completely it would make no sense for us to give you a complete
Different look because this is everyday sexy. Things that you can do that make just a little bit of difference
Okay, so then if you're living in this and you're also golfing this, she's hasn't really seen a different guy. Terry: Exactly
Okay, so then come with me I've got other options for you. I want you to feel a little more dressed up
You look pretty great on the whole. My concern is your underwear
I know that I've only known you for a very very short amount of time
But your underwear is not sexy. Terry: they're comfortable
I'm sure they are
Sometimes comfort's great and I love comfort. However, there's sexy comfort. I wear boxer briefs
So do many many many many men because they are comfortable
But they also are sexier. So maybe can I emplore you to try?
Underwear, that's just a boxer brief? Terry: Okay
It's just gonna make you look a little sexy when you present yourself to your wife every night. Sound good?
Sounds great
Do you wanna try something on? Terry: Absolutely. Okay, great.
So I'm gonna get you in a pair of dark jeans
I got you a few different options of different fits, but this is a slim jean. It's not skinny
I'm not getting into a skinny. It wouldn't be appropriate for you. So this is just a slim. Okay?
Um, I want you to try a jacket on
And then I want to do a couple of layers
So I don't want to I don't want to muddy the waters at this point by going crazy with too much more
So let's just get you in a gray sweater
I'll put you in a gray shirt. So it's not overkill. Let's keep it
sophisticated
Okay, and then I'm gonna get you in a boot
So just put the the jeans and the shirt and a sweater on for now
I'm gonna help you on the boots and then we'll try on the jacket. Okay, just let me know when you're decent.
Thank you.
Boxers are like dad
But boxer briefs are like daddy
Boys come on join. I want you to take a look at him. Come on
Oh my god. Bobby: Oh you look so handsome
We found out that the word that you prefer is striking. So he looks striking.
So Terry actually looked great. He was already not too far removed from the style like great style
He just needed things to fit better. He doesn't really get dressed up for work
he wears polos and
chinos pretty much everyday, his golfing look and so I just wanted to get him in something slightly more polished
And then I wanted to keep the colors simple muted. It's for a date night
And so simple gray on gray and then a navy. What you can't see is that he is living...
Do you mind me talking about this? Terry: No
Okay, he is living in a very unflattering boxer short like a granddad kind of. Jonathan: Could we do a boxer brief?
Yes exactly why I said
Boxers are like dad
But boxer briefs are like daddy
Does this work? Terry: This looks great. I feel great
Now I've got something to show you. Are you ready? Come on boys
All right
So I know originally I said I was gonna set you up a little picnic for outside
but I ran around your house and I found things you already had
And I turned them into a great little romantic picnic moment for you and Julie
Again this is all stuff that I found literally in your backyard
This is unbelievable. Bobby: Thank you.
One of the most sexy things you can do for your partner is take time to design romance
It only takes a few minutes to really let your partner know that you love them
You know, you don't have to go out and spend a lot of money
You can do it with what you already have at home. How do you think Julie's gonna react?
I think she's gonna be very impressed. Yeah
Is that her?
Oh my god
What do you think Julie? Julie: You look amazing! Oh, holy crap, you look so good.
I mean, I knew you look good, but you look really good
Look at your hair, it looks really good.
For all of you men out there, get out of your own way. It's okay for you to think that you're attractive
It's okay for you to feel good
So I think it's really about like, you know
Removing labels and about getting out of your head and into your body and focusing on how you feel
Do you feel good? Terry: Yeah, this is great. Julie: You look really sharp.
I'm super impressed.
All right guys, so it's time to pamper your wife
So Terry, here, because I want you serving her. Terry: Absolutely
And Julie here. I'm gonna go get the other boys. Have fun guys. Okay
This is awesome
So I want to make you one of my favorites that we had earlier, okay, it's like an apricot
Nice
I'm so proud of you. This is amazing.
Let's toast our crackers
Food is such a sensory experience. There is something
Sexy about feeding someone, feeding yourself
It's like love and intimacy intertwined.
So do you think this is something?
You could do on your own without the help of these amazing guys?
I think any guy can do this. It's not that hard
Yeah, you just gotta take time and that's the biggest thing
I think I got out of today was you just got to make time to do something
Do you feel as sexy as you look? Cause you look amazing.
I do feel good.
You feel good? You feel confident?
I would have never chosen this on my own
It's so good though. That's such a good combination
For every man out there who's feeling a little bit schlumpy, wants to
Step up a little bit and feel that ever so slight bit sexier
Just make sure that colors complement you and that they represent what your life is all about. Just small small tweaks
no major major changes
Hi guys. Terry: Hey
You can't have cheese without wine. Julie: Aww thank you
Karamo: Can I come and scoot in?
Please. I'm so impressed with you guys
Eat some food, please. Karamo: Really?
For a lot of times we do like a little experiential treatment like this
It's like people like well great
But maybe I can't afford to go out to the restaurant and go take a great date night
You don't necessarily like have to go out spend a bunch of money on like an outside restaurant
You can definitely
bring a date night in
You can definitely do like a mixture of high-low products like for grooming, for clothing
Like there's always a way that no matter where you're starting
You can prioritize each other and make something special without necessarily having to leave the house
Which I think it's really great
and all of these things that they're just small
Changes that were making so he wasn't by removed from way
We wanted him to be just small tweaks to make a bit more of an effort
Right. And again just taking the things you have, you know not adding extra time
Just taking a little bit of time out of your day
To really let your partner know and I want your doing it to not just him
It speaks of the good things that are already there
Just like enjoy these moments and like once a week for you guys to sit down and enjoy a meal together like this
Hopefully more, dim the lights play some sexy music and just have a good time
And connect emotionally. That's what it's about
This is really just the setting for you two to connect emotionally
Got your cheese. You got your gorgeous setup. You got your connection primed and ready to happen, love it
We should let them have a private moment.
You guys enjoy, thank you so much for letting us in your gorgeous home.
You guys are amazing. Terry: Thank you so much guys.
Thank you, have a good day, thank you so much for having us
Do not forget to share. Terry: I will not
You got to him, that's good. I am so proud of you, you're a trooper.