Practice English Speaking&Listening with: Three steps to giving less of a shit what people think
ladies gentlemen boys and girls I'm
chillin and there I'm Julian Northbrook
from doing English calm and I'm John the
color paper ball genius right I've had
four people just today tell me that they
want to give less of a when
speaking English of what people think of
them I was going to do a video about it
myself but then I thought why not just
get to the expert to the evil bond
genius on himself too to give you a few
tips for giving less of a John
hello yeah there's three things really
and I've start by saying it does take
practice because we're hardwired to care
what other people think we've evolved in
a environment where other people's
opinions did matter because the safety
in numbers and if anyone stands out and
he's different well they're a danger to
everybody in today societies and
cultures that no longer serves us so
bear in mind you're fighting several
hundred thousand years of evolution but
it can be done because I've done it the
first thing is to understand other
people's opinions are subjective they
are within themselves they do not
reflect on you so like your man here I'm
autistic too
some people don't like is because of
that yet other people think we're
amazing well they can't both be correct
can they they've cannot both be
objective to correct we can't be
complete assholes and really cool people
you know it depends on your viewpoint so
what I do is I choose to listen to
people who think I'm amazing and the
rest can go themselves that's it I
choose what I choose to care about what
other people say by choosing to think to
accept the nice things that's the first
thing the second thing is to remember
other people's opinions online of your
business what goes on in the confines of
their head is none of your concern
whether they love you whether they hate
you whether they like cheese or cheese
sandwiches is nothing to do with you at
all it is their business and not your
own and the third thing kind of hops
back to both of these and that is no
matter what you do no matter what you
say you will piss someone off even if
you agree with everybody and you're the
nicest person on earth that will piss
somebody off like me because I hate
people like that because at some point
they're being dishonest and you don't
know when it is so you may as well and
sure at least one person is happy and
that is you so just please your
self you know we're not talking about
violate
people's right sir words never really
hurt anybody so people talk about you
being rude offensive and all the rest of
it well that's all subjective to them so
I would do that I would just please
yourself and then you can be sure at
least one was happy that's three simple
ways not to give so much of a
anymore and there we go Jules I think
that's pretty good I think it's been a
long time since somebody referred to me
as your man there which is also quite
nice oh god I'm scared to switch the
camera off now keep it rolling so there
we go ladies and gentlemen boys and
girls there is how to give a less of a
this is me during northbrook
signing out and go over to doing English
comm sign it for money
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check it out a speedy later bye bye I
can't stop this my thumbs locked up
