Lip Syncing: All I want to get is a little bit closer.
All I want to know is can you come a little closer.
Here comes the breath before we get a little bit closer.
Here comes the rush before we touch,
come a little closer.
Caller: Hi, Kristin and Dannielle.
So, my lover-girl and I have very different levels of sexual desire and it’s putting a strain on our relationship.
I want to have sex almost all the time, and she hardly ever does.
We fell in love with each other, but sometimes it’s so bad that she’s afraid to touch me at all out of fear that it will lead to sex.
Or I’m afraid to initiate sex out of fear that she doesn’t want it.
What do we do?
I have had this experience before.
I have too, on the other end.
How do you know what end I was in?
Well, because...
You know what I mean?
The biggest problem right now is your anticipation of the other person’s wants and desires, and vice-versa.
Right, like, her anticipation of what you want, and the other way around.
And that’s really hard to break out of.
Physical attraction works for different people in different ways.
For you, you’re super attracted and in love with your girlfriend, you want to have sex all the time.
For your girlfriend she’s super attracted to you, loves you so much, and just doesn’t have a super high sex drive.
And that’s totally okay, but you have to find a compromise or it’ll just…the two of you will just crumble.
Think that trying to at least set some sort of a schedule, or some sort of an expectation that you both can agree on,
although it isn’t romantic, and may not work depending on your combination,
it’s worth a shot at first because sometimes when you get yourself out of that routine of, like,
she doesn’t want to touch you because she doesn’t wanna blah, and you don’t wanna this because you don’t wanna whatever,
if you’re like, you know what? Every Wednesday night for the next four weeks, we’re having sex.
No matter what.
We eat a big dinner, we don’t feel like having sex neither of us, it doesn’t matter, we’re having sex.
And just do it and see if that starts to, like, at least break you out of the routine that you’ve gotten yourselves into.
‘Cause that’s the tricky part.
I wonder if there’s a way to do it, too, where you’re like, no matter what, we will never have sex on Tuesday nights.
You can cuddle me as much as you want, you can put your arm around me, you can put your leg on my thigh,
Put your leg on my thigh, she says with a turkey hat on...
So Tuesday nights, if you do cuddle nights, then it would be like this:
And like, I’m just like, I might want to have sex, but like, I’ve agreed to cuddle, so...
You know? It’s just...
It’s nice.
And on Wednesday nights, we agree to have sex.
So, no matter what, once I’m like...
Then hopefully she’s like...
Okay, I have a new piece of advice.
Okay...
I think you should both buy turkey hats.
Turkey hats kind of…they kind of make everything better.
They do.
Plus, since today’s Thanksgiving, they’ll be on sale tomorrow.
Gobble-gobble.
Gobble-gobble!
Lip Syncing: So, let’s make things physical.
I won’t treat you like you’re oh-so typical!
I want you close, I want you!
I won’t treat you’re like you’re typical.
I want you close, I want you!
I won’t treat you like you’re typical.
Oh-oh-oh-oh. Oh-oh-oh-oh. Oh-oh-oh...
I won't treat you like you're typical.
Oh-oh-oh-oh. Oh-oh-oh-oh.
I won’t treat you like you’re typical.
All I want to get is a little bit closer.
All I want to know is can you come a little closer.
