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I got kicked, pinched, punched, bitten...

...verbally abused.

When I was bullied at primary school, it was not a very obvious type of bullying and it

was just where I was being excluded. One of the incidents I remember was where I'd gone

up to a group of people who I thought were my friends and I joined in a conversation

and one of the girls turned to me and said, "Why you here?" And I said, "Well, what do

you mean, why am I here?" And she said, "Don't stand here. You're not welcome."

If you're a parent and you find out your small child's being bullied, you're just devastated.

You know, we all want our children to be popular and have friends and the fact that they might

be picked on, somebody else might not like them is devatasting to parents.

I felt sick. I felt guilty. I felt like I'd lost control looking after my child.

If your child was being bullied, how would you know?

If parents suspect their young children are being bullied, the most obvious thing to look

out for is mood changes. Often kids that are being bullied get withdrawn, they get upset.

They might be saying that they are being sick and they don't want to go to school. They

change their moods. You'll notice as a parent if something's up with them.

One of the first signs might be that your child is not behaving in ways which are average

and normal for them, so if your child is outgoing and suddenly becomes quite introverted, perhaps

their eating habits are different. It's really about knowing your child and why would he

or she suddenly act very differently.

Other things you can look out for are: torn clothing

from when they come home from school, or if they're missing something like, for

example, if their pencil case goes missing or a bag goes missing, something gets scuffed

or damaged in some way. Often those are indicators that something is going on for them at school.

Is the child attempting to cover up? You know, is an eight year old suddenly locking the

bathroom door? They don't want you to see their arms or legs? Are they hiding bruises?

They will work hugely hard to hide the fact that it's happening.

Small children blame themselves a lot for things that happen to them, so they quite

often think it's their fault. You know, the bully's picked on them because of something

wrong with them and actually that's not true.

There was one evening, I caught Connor at

the top of the stairs with tears in his eyes and I just sat with him and I just said to

him, "What's going on at school?" And he told me that the boy had been threatening him,

calling him names, telling him what he was going to do to him when he got outside school.

And I was just so glad that he'd told me. I put my arms round him

and told him that I would help him.

One of the main things is for a parent to listen to their child

and not to be immediately talking at them, or almost leaking one's pain

and it becomes more about you and not the child. Believing them, absolutely believing

them, because many victims of abuse generally fear not being believed and also letting them

know that now there will be solutions, that the family, and the school and other adults,

that perhaps need to be involved, will work together to solve the problem.

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