ED KASHI: Herbie, I got a phone call from Shan
that you refuse to go home.
HERBIE WINOKUR: That's why I bought a--
JULIE WINOKUR: What town are we in now?
HERBIE WINOKUR: That's a great question.
I can't remember it for the life of me.
ED KASHI: Jule--
JULIE WINOKUR: Yeah?
HERBIE WINOKUR: Where is that lady?
Oh there she is.
JULIE WINOKUR: Ha ha ha.
Do you like that new sweater?
I love that color.
ISABEL KASHI: My grandpa has dementia.
JULIE WINOKUR: What does that mean?
ISABEL KASHI: I don't know.
HERBIE WINOKUR: Is it possible at all to have a continuous
into the wind?
JULIE WINOKUR: I'm doing yoga in the living room.
Are you going to come do yoga?
Ooh, you got that Einstein look going.
You didn't tell me you were a mad scientist.
We're full thrust into the sandwich generation.
It's people who are taking care of their children
and taking care of their parents.
And apparently, I'm one of something
like 20 million Americans who find themselves
in that position.
Do you have it?
I want you to do it yourself.
As much as you can, you do yourself.
We uprooted our lives and we moved it 3,000 miles in order
to be there to support my father.
It's like a prime time of my life
and I basically gave it away.
ED KASHI: He can still, most days, most meals,
feed himself although he needs help.
He can watch TV but he can't use the channel changer.
He's pretty helpless in a way.
JULIE WINOKUR: His physical needs
are actually going to get greater as time goes on.
ED KASHI: OK.
Go ahead, you can sit down.
Are you OK?
HERBIE WINOKUR: Yeah.
ED KASHI: All right.
The kids are being given this lesson, this life lesson,
on what it means to care for someone.
What it means to come through for someone else.
ELI KASHI: It's pretty cool having my grandpa
in the house with us, but it's a little
stressful for my parents.
JULIE WINOKUR: It's enriching.
I will have no regrets when I look back on this.
But damn, it's hard while you're in it.
We're about to sell my dad's house.
And he's been in that house for about 40 years.
I think it took a huge toll on him.
HERBIE WINOKUR: Better realize it
that it's not going to be the same.
ED KASHI: Yeah.
JULIE WINOKUR: This morning when we went downstairs,
we found him on the floor.
And he'd probably been on the floor for a number of hours.
ED KASHI: Herb has gone in to free fall
since he went into the hospital.
We're right now at a loss of how to deal
with his medical condition.
JULIE WINOKUR: I don't know how long
we will be able to handle it at home, quite honestly.
I don't know how we're going to function
and, you know, maintain our lives as he slips.