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Actually I was gonna tell you about the words like, um like you know, just like, would you

really want me to teach you like this in this manner using these words? Well it just seems

that I'm not very confident about what I'm teaching. So there are some words in English

that people tend to slip into their conversations and that just makes them sound less confident

and that's what we are gonna look at in this lesson today.

Hey friends, it's me Niharika,

well at times when we are having a conversation we tend to use certain words that make us

sound less confident. Well this happens unconsciously. We don't really mean to use these words but

they just pop out, out of our mouth. So we are gonna look at these words which we should

definitely avoid. People generally use these words to buy time to think to what they want

to say. But avoid them if you want to come out as a very confident person. What are these

words? Well that's what we are gonna look at.

The first word that I'm gonna help you with isactually’. So when do we use the word

actuallyin English? Well when we have to emphasize our statements. Okay, so if you

want to emphasize on what you are saying, you can use the wordactually’. But,

if you end up using the wordactuallyevery now and then, then people are not gonna

take you seriously. You would just sound very uninformed and pitiful. For example, this

is what people make a mistake with, for example they end saying that, “Actually I was about

to do this, but actually, I totally forgot, actually I was gonna come but I couldn't make

it.” Actually, that's the problem. You don't have to slip in this word in each and every

sentence that you say. If you tend to use this word as a filler you are not gonna sound

confident and people will not take you seriously. So I know it's difficult but try to delete

this word out of your vocabulary, okay? Please tend to avoid using, “actually this happened

andactually I went thereandactually I couldn't movewell, actually you need

to take this word out of your vocabulary. Just use it when you have to emphasize a statement

of yours, okay?

Moving on to another word which is commonly used by many people, of course this word just

comes out unconsciously, even I tend to use the wordbasicallymany at times but

yes, even I need to cut this down. So when do we use the word basically? Well we use

this word when we have to summarize on what we just said. So when you have to summarize

your conversation, you can end it by saying, “Basically this was the whole situation.”

orBasically this was the reason why I could not go there.” But, many people use

this word as a filler. “Basically I just want to tell you that you need to work on

these sheets.” “Basically you will be late to work.” “Basically I will be out

of time.” Stop using the wordbasically’, okay? It is also considered as very unprofessional

and people will not take you seriously if you use the wordbasicallyway too much,

okay?

Moving on to another filler or the word that would make you sound less confident is the

word, ‘like’. Now in English we use the word like when we really like something, like

when we adore something or you also use the wordlikewhen we find similarities

between two things, okay? Something common in two things, “Oh! This dress is just like

mine.” Okay? We end up using the word, ‘like’. But many people slip the wordlikein

their conversation just like that. Like they end up saying, “Like you know what I was

trying to tell you,” “Like we had a great time,” “Like the movie was so amazing,

like it was just perfect.” Well why to add the wordlike’? It's an extra word. Why

waste your time and energy using the word when it's not required. So again please take

out the wordlikeif you tend to use this involuntary in your sentences, okay?

Moving on to another one which is again just use the word like, ‘just’. “Just wanted

to talk to you.” “Just wanted to spend time with you.” “Just thought of calling

you.” “Just thought, catching up for a movie.” So why use the wordjustat

the beginning of each and every sentence that you have to say, okay? It's again considered

as a very bad filler and if you tend to use the word just for everything then please stop

using it, okay? So nojust’. Just say, thatI would like to go for a movie.”

I want to talk to you.” “I want to spend time with you.” Not using the word

just’, okay?

Moving on to another one, ‘kind of’, ‘sort of’. Now people use this, “The movie was

kind of’, ‘kind ofweird.” The song issort of’, ‘sort ofdifferent.

Wellkind of’, ‘sort ofis generally used by people who just seemed to be so confused.

It just seems that they cannot have a control over the situation. So when people, especially

who belong to the corporate world if they tend to use the words likekind ofand

sort of’, it will not make them sound professional. The boss is not going to appreciate

it, the clients are not gonna like it and the colleagues are definitely not gonna like

it. So using the wordkind ofandsort ofjust makes you sound less confident

and just makes you sound very unreliable. So stop using these words likekind of

andsort ofbecause these words may backfire upon you. So please don't usekind

oforsort ofin your conversations.

The next one, ‘sorry’. Why do we usesorry’? Well to apologize, right? But have you heard

people coming up to you and say, “sorry, I just wanted to talk to you.” “Sorry,

I just made a call but she hung up.” Sorry, I tried to make it.” Why use the wordsorry’,

when you are not here to apologize. Slipping in the wordsorryin each of your sentences,

in a conversation of course doesn't sound great. Now just use the wordsorryto

apologize, okay? But where apologies are not necessary why is the wordsorryunnecessarily,

right? So please delete the wordsorryif you have been using in your sentences.

Yes! If you make a mistake and you want to apologize then please do use the wordsorry’,

okay?

And then the last one which is commonly used by teenagers these days. Well the f-bomb.

Well I hope you got what I'm saying the f-word. Yes we have many curse words in English that

youngsters love to use in each and every sentence of theirs. Stop using it. It just comes out

in a very offensive manner, you do not sound great? What people think you sound cool? No!

People are not gonna appreciate you using the curse words. Using the F words like for

everything that you want to say that for example you get hurt and you say, “F***, I got hurt.”

F***, I missed the movie.” “F***, we are late.” Why use the F word just say that

we are late”. “Oops, I got hurt.” “Ouch, it hurts.” Right? So stop using

the offensive curse words in your sentences people are not gonna like having a conversation

with you and of course people are not gonna take you seriously, right?

So these are some fillers that people tend to use in their statements or in their conversations

if you are using it then please try to avoid using them I know it's quite a difficult task

because you've been doing this probably all your life but stop using it and come out as

a very confident person when you speak English and I'll be back with a new lesson soon till

then you take careActually I was gonna tell you about the words like, um like you know,

just like, would you really want me to teach you like this in this manner using these words?

Well it just seems that I'm not very confident about what I'm teaching. So there are some

words in English that people tend to slip into their conversations and that just makes

them sound less confident and that's what we are gonna look at in this lesson today.

Hey friends, it's me Niharika, well at times when we are having a conversation we tend

to use certain words that make us sound less confident. Well this happens unconsciously.

We don't really mean to use these words but they just pop out, out of our mouth. So we

are gonna look at these words which we should definitely avoid. People generally use these

words to buy time to think to what they want to say. But avoid them if you want to come

out as a very confident person. What are these words? Well that's what we are gonna look

at.

The first word that I'm gonna help you with isactually’. So when do we use the word

actuallyin English? Well when we have to emphasize our statements. Okay, so if you

want to emphasize on what you are saying, you can use the wordactually’. But,

if you end up using the wordactuallyevery now and then, then people are not gonna

take you seriously. You would just sound very uninformed and pitiful. For example, this

is what people make a mistake with, for example they end saying that, “Actually I was about

to do this, but actually, I totally forgot, actually I was gonna come but I couldn't make

it.” Actually, that's the problem. You don't have to slip in this word in each and every

sentence that you say. If you tend to use this word as a filler you are not gonna sound

confident and people will not take you seriously. So I know it's difficult but try to delete

this word out of your vocabulary, okay? Please tend to avoid using, “actually this happened

andactually I went thereandactually I couldn't movewell, actually you need

to take this word out of your vocabulary. Just use it when you have to emphasize a statement

of yours, okay?

Moving on to another word which is commonly used by many people, of course this word just

comes out unconsciously, even I tend to use the wordbasicallymany at times but

yes, even I need to cut this down. So when do we use the word basically? Well we use

this word when we have to summarize on what we just said. So when you have to summarize

your conversation, you can end it by saying, “Basically this was the whole situation.”

orBasically this was the reason why I could not go there.” But, many people use

this word as a filler. “Basically I just want to tell you that you need to work on

these sheets.” “Basically you will be late to work.” “Basically I will be out

of time.” Stop using the wordbasically’, okay? It is also considered as very unprofessional

and people will not take you seriously if you use the wordbasicallyway too much,

okay?

Moving on to another filler or the word that would make you sound less confident is the

word, ‘like’. Now in English we use the word like when we really like something, like

when we adore something or you also use the wordlikewhen we find similarities

between two things, okay? Something common in two things, “Oh! This dress is just like

mine.” Okay? We end up using the word, ‘like’. But many people slip the wordlikein

their conversation just like that. Like they end up saying, “Like you know what I was

trying to tell you,” “Like we had a great time,” “Like the movie was so amazing,

like it was just perfect.” Well why to add the wordlike’? It's an extra word. Why

waste your time and energy using the word when it's not required. So again please take

out the wordlikeif you tend to use this involuntary in your sentences, okay?

Moving on to another one which is again just use the word like, ‘just’. “Just wanted

to talk to you.” “Just wanted to spend time with you.” “Just thought of calling

you.” “Just thought, catching up for a movie.” So why use the wordjustat

the beginning of each and every sentence that you have to say, okay? It's again considered

as a very bad filler and if you tend to use the word just for everything then please stop

using it, okay? So nojust’. Just say, thatI would like to go for a movie.”

I want to talk to you.” “I want to spend time with you.” Not using the word

just’, okay?

Moving on to another one, ‘kind of’, ‘sort of’. Now people use this, “The movie was

kind of’, ‘kind ofweird.” The song issort of’, ‘sort ofdifferent.

Wellkind of’, ‘sort ofis generally used by people who just seemed to be so confused.

It just seems that they cannot have a control over the situation. So when people, especially

who belong to the corporate world if they tend to use the words likekind ofand

sort of’, it will not make them sound professional. The boss is not going to appreciate

it, the clients are not gonna like it and the colleagues are definitely not gonna like

it. So using the wordkind ofandsort ofjust makes you sound less confident

and just makes you sound very unreliable. So stop using these words likekind of

andsort ofbecause these words may backfire upon you. So please don't usekind

oforsort ofin your conversations.

The next one, ‘sorry’. Why do we usesorry’? Well to apologize, right? But have you heard

people coming up to you and say, “sorry, I just wanted to talk to you.” “Sorry,

I just made a call but she hung up.” Sorry, I tried to make it.” Why use the wordsorry’,

when you are not here to apologize. Slipping in the wordsorryin each of your sentences,

in a conversation of course doesn't sound great. Now just use the wordsorryto

apologize, okay? But where apologies are not necessary why is the wordsorryunnecessarily,

right? So please delete the wordsorryif you have been using in your sentences.

Yes! If you make a mistake and you want to apologize then please do use the wordsorry’,

okay?

And then the last one which is commonly used by teenagers these days. Well the f-bomb.

Well I hope you got what I'm saying the f-word. Yes we have many curse words in English that

youngsters love to use in each and every sentence of theirs. Stop using it. It just comes out

in a very offensive manner, you do not sound great? What people think you sound cool? No!

People are not gonna appreciate you using the curse words. Using the F words like for

everything that you want to say that for example you get hurt and you say, “F***, I got hurt.”

F***, I missed the movie.” “F***, we are late.” Why use the F word just say that

we are late”. “Oops, I got hurt.” “Ouch, it hurts.” Right? So stop using

the offensive curse words in your sentences people are not gonna like having a conversation

with you and of course people are not gonna take you seriously, right?

So these are some fillers that people tend to use in their statements or in their conversations

if you are using it then please try to avoid using them I know it's quite a difficult task

because you've been doing this probably all your life but stop using it and come out as

a very confident person when you speak English and I'll be back with a new lesson soon till

then you take care....

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