You know what's hard to escape... other than news about the coronavirus? What's hard
to escape is relationships and sex in media. So when I'm watching TV, whether
it's a comedy or action or fantasy or sci-fi, 99 times out of a hundred -
and that 100 is probably the majority of Lord of the Rings - there will be some form of
romance. And if it's on a popular streaming service, there will be some
form of sex. I'm just going to talk about how I feel about it
in general so I can put out a nice easy video, where I can just ramble at
you... like I normally do, as if I ever plan these things. As you may have gathered, I
don't really like romance or sex being a major part of the media I consume.
With one exception!
I do enjoy stories of gay romance from time to time, and that includes both male
gay and female gay romance. I don't know why it's both, but if it's between
two people of the same gender, my brain's like "Yes, this is fun to watch!", whereas if
it's between two people of separate - different genders, then my
brain just switches off. Obviously for gay male romances, it's something I
personally can relate to, more so than a straight relationship. I think one of the
reasons that I also sometimes enjoy lesbian relationships on TV or something
is because when I was in the process of coming out, there was an episode of
Supergirl - if you don't want spoilers for like season two or three of Supergirl
then stop watching, I guess - um but there was episode of Supergirl where her
sister, Alex, came out as lesbian and I
found that was a very good coming-out story and that helped me come to terms
with some my own feelings. It just goes to show that is the same process no
matter what gender you are. Obviously, there are many differences because of
society. But yes, gay romance I'm a fan of.
I have a guilty pleasure in watching gay rom-coms - though there
aren't many of them. Really not very many... If you have any, please recommend
them. Something light-hearted. Anyway, I'm not doing this video to get film
recommendations, I'm doing this video to talk about relationships and sex. Gay
rom-coms: yes. Straight anything with relationships: blaugh.
And sex with anyone in it is also off the table. I do not enjoy that in the
slightest and I never have. Obviously because I'm asexual, I don't feel sexual
attraction. I have no desire to pursue that sort of thing, and I don't enjoy it. I
know there are some people who do, some people who identify as ace who do
enjoy sex and sex scenes and maybe porn, and that sort of thing. But I personally
don't. But yeah I think I noticed it a lot when I was growing up as well.
Because it made me feel different, the fact that this girl and this guy would,
they would like each other. One minute, they're talking to each other
and the next they're banging each other into walls and eating each others' faces.
And it was very uninteresting, and it added nothing to the plot the
majority of the time, so I ignored it. I normally stroked my cat or washed the
dishes. Neither of which I can really do at the moment because my sink is
really far away from my TV and I don't have a cat here, so mrgrgr. But yes, because
there was no ace representation in the media when I was growing up, there was no
one that I could relate to, and there were so few gay relationships so
I didn't see any of that when I was growing up. So yeah, in my opinion,
if you can't relate to it, and you can't relate to any of these
relationships in the media, it can make you feel lonely and ostracised, and
different. And also my qualm of it getting in the way of the story, there's so many
times where I've watched a TV show, and they've just started pairing up
every single person in the show. And fair enough, I understand having a
relationship or two because that's part of life and TV shows in some sense
emulate life. Or they should do because otherwise it's unrealistic like Farscape.
But anyway, Farscape was weird. Did anyone watch Farscape? Like I said, this is
going to be rambly. So I understand if there are a few romantic relationships
in the show, but if it gets to the point where every character arc is just
romance and sex, that's unrealistic because there are so many things in your
life that are important, so many relationships in your life that are
important other than sex. So it annoys me partly because it does diminish the
importance of platonic relationships and friendships, and familial relationships
as an extension. Familial relationship, romance. Maybe familial, a bit higher, and
romance, and then down here somewhere they're like friendships. Where they
should all be equal, and it's really frustrating because I know there are
people out there who don't want a romantic relationship.
I know though people are they don't want a sexual relationship. And they're having
this thrust on them as the most important thing. And I think the reason
that I can empathize with it so much is that during my time at secondary school,
I did self-identify as aro ace even if I didn't have a language for it,
so I understand how it feels to see all these romantic relationships and sexual
relationships being prioritized over friendships, where friendships at the
time were so much more important to me. Now, they're about equal, like I said.
Although, if you have the culmination of all my
friendships, that would be more important than my one romantic relationship...
no offense, Boyfriend. But yeah, those were just my rambling thoughts about my
romantic and sexual relationships in TV shows and media in general, as an
extension. I know I was talking about a TV and film a lot, but this extends the
books as well. I was reading a book recently, which had longer romantic
scenes in it, and I bored me it bored me. They're supposed to be killing people
with swords, damn it. I don't care about them kissing, I care about the murder.
I would like to know your thoughts on this. This was just me splurging
the contents of my brain at this moment in time, so I hope you
enjoyed it. If you did get this far, then... thank you. There we go, that's a word. Um,
two words. Please do tell me your thoughts on this in the comments if
there is something you want to say about it.
Otherwise, if you're watching this video on Saturday May 2nd, when it comes out,
then you may be interested in a live stream I'm doing later with a load of
other creators. I did do a short announcement video about it earlier in
the week, but basically I'm doing this live stream fundraiser for the WHO
Covid-19 Solidarity Response Fund. It's organised by Sounds Fake But Okay. There's a
loads of other ace creators and activists in it, so if it's something
you're interested in, it's at 7 p.m. BST, Saturday May 2nd which may or may not be
today. Yeah, check it out if you're interested. There's also a fundraiser
I'll throw links to everything in the description. Other than that I've also
released a second video today, which is basically me showing you my island in
Animal Crossing. If that's something you're interested in, I've also put a
link to that in the description below. I've left it as unlisted because of two
reasons: 1. I don't want it to overshadow this video, which is
related more to the content on the channel,
and 2. I don't want people coming to this channel thinking
that it's a gaming channel. And if maybe they've searched Animal Crossing: New
Horizons, or just Animal Crossing, they might come across the video and have a
skewed perception of the content of the channel. And I don't necessarily want
that to happen. So yes, if you're interested in the video, there's a link
in the description. You should be able to watch it, otherwise yes, so I'm putting
out two videos and a live stream today, so I don't even know where I got this
free time. I think all the things are short, that's why. That should be
everything. If you enjoyed this video, then please leave a like. I post videos
every other Saturday so if you want to see more, then feel free to subscribe. That
is all I had to say today, have a wonderful day, and I shall see you next time!!! ...
That was a tad more dramatic than usual...