Practice English Speaking&Listening with: How Do I Deal With Desire? - Sadhguru

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Questioner: Dear Sadhguru,

it is well known that desire is the cause of all sorrows and tension.

But being a wife and a mother,

I cant get rid of these desires.

I seek your valuable advice in this regard. Thank you.

Sadhguru: Now,

its not because youre a wife

and in turn a mother

that your desires have come.

If you were nobodys wife,

probably your were desiring,

when you were nobodys wife,

you were desiring to be somebodys wife.

Now that youre somebodys wife,

you desire to have a child and become a mother.

Now that you have a child,

now youre saying,

It is these two entities which is making me desire”.

It is not true.

If you are nobodys nothing,

even then your desire would still burn within you, is that so?

Yes or no?

If you are nothing to nobody in the world,

still your desire would burn, isnt it?

So please dont think your desires are

because of your child or your husband or your family or whatever.

Anyway you would desire, because thats your nature.

Now you made a statement,

in the question that,

desire is the source of all misery”.

Desire is not the source of all misery,

unfulfilled desire is the source of all misery.

Isnt it?

Isnt it so?

Desires fulfilled are the source of your joy,

unfulfilled desires is the source of your misery.

Now, what to do with the desire?

Shall we kill the desire?

I know people have been teaching you such things,

You must kill all your desires.

Unless you destroy your desires,

your misery will not go.”

These teachings have come to you, isnt it?

Now, if you want to destroy all your desires,

all you will have is,

you will have a great desire to destroy all your desires.

And you will remain eternally unfulfilled.

I dont want any desires!”

is this a desire?

Is this a desire or no?


So, if you try to play tricks with this,

it is not going to work.

Because desire is not desiring for anything in particular.

The energy which you call as desire

is not different from the energy that you call as life.

If you want to move from point A to point B,

you need a desire, isnt it?

Now what brought you here today,

it is not your bus or car or something else.

It is your desire which has brought you here today, isnt it?

What is it that will take you home?

It is your desire which will take you home.

What is it that will make you eat?

It is your desire which will make you eat.

So what you call as desire is not any different from what you call as life.

The life is desire.

The very basis of your life is desire, isnt it?

So if I tell youKill the desire”,

the only way is to hang yourself.

There is really no other way.

Now, “I want to die”, that is also a desire, isnt it?

Yes or no?

So do not deceive yourself with these things.

Desire is the very essence of your life.

But at the same time,

you also know,

that desire is an unending thing.

If you fulfill one,

the next one will be ready.

If you fulfill that, the next one will be ready.

It keeps you on all the time.

And obviously some desires will be unfulfilled

and those unfulfilled desires cause much misery to you.

If you look at the desire,

actually when we started,

this is what we were looking at,

we just did not use the worddesire”.

There is something within you

longing to be little more than what you are right now, isn't it?

That is desire.

So your desires ultimate goal is unboundedness,

the infinite nature.

But because youre unaware,

you are giving it an unconscious expression

for the longing that is wanting to become unbounded.

So you dont have to destroy your desire, because you cannot.

Can anybody destroy their desire?

Is it possible?

There is no way because thats life.

It is just that

you have to make your desire into a conscious process.

Right now it is functioning unconsciously

because right now your desires are not even about you.

Please look at this.

Right now youre living in Trivandrum or Tirivunathapuram,

your neighbor has a big car, what is your desire?

You want to have two cars like that.

Now you dont know all these cars,

you are living in a remote place

and your neighbor has one big buffalo.

What is your desire?

You want to have two buffaloes like that.

So your desire is just a reaction to the social situations in which youre living,

isnt it?

This is so because this longing to expand is finding unconscious expression.

If you make your process of desiring into a conscious process,

then desire is no more a problem.

Desire is a wonderful vehicle which will take you places.

Even if you want to reach the ultimate, you need a desire, isnt it?

Yes or no?

Anyway the desire in you is longing for unboundedness,

it is longing for unlimitedness,

it is longing for the ultimate nature.

You just have to bring awareness to it.

If you bring awareness to your desiring process,

it is a wonderful instrument.

If it is finding unconscious expression,

then it makes you run like madman.

All the time it keeps you running endlessly.


being a wife,

being a mother,

its extremely important.

Now that youre a mother,

not a small responsibility.

You brought another human being into this planet.

Now what kind of human being you produce

is a very huge responsibility isnt it?

It is not just about reproduction,

what kind of next generation you create is in your hands, as a mother, isnt it?


What kind of people are going to live on this planet in the next generation

is decided by the mothers of today, isnt it?

When such a responsibility you have,

you cannot afford to live unconsciously.

You must become conscious.

Especially the women must become conscious.

Its very, very important.

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